How to be Happy when Everyone Else Seems to be in a Relationship

We’ve all heard the saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side,” and that those who are in relationships envy single people (do they really?) and single people envy those in a relationship.

Still, it doesn’t help the little pang of hurt and jealousy when you see your friends and co-workers are being showered in love, chocolates, flowers, and a romantic date.

So how can you be happy both for your friends and yourself when you feel more lonely than celebratory for your happy totally-in-love-with-each-other coupled friends?


Before I get into this post though, realize that your feelings are valid and I am by no means trying to overshadow your less-than-happy emotions.

But if this is not how you want to feel when you want to feel happy for your friends and for yourself, then read on, sister!

Such a simple word but it’s loaded with so many promises.

When we are lonely and we see happy couples, our hopes naturally become shallow and self-centered.
We hope for a happy relationship one day too.
We hope for an amazing man to sweep us off our feet.
We hope for marriage.
We hope for partnership.

Our hopes become clouded by temporary things.

Of course we all want to be in a healthy, happy, amazing, loving marriage with the man of our dreams.

But here’s a powerful reminder.
What GOD has for us is so much more amazing than what we can ever fathom.

We see our friends and think, “I wish I had that…..”

But God already has an amazing love story written out for you. And ladies, I know we all LOVE surprises.
So that amazing love story.. we don’t know when that’s going to happen.
But it’s going to happen at a perfect time.

You can’t compare your love story to theirs.
You can’t compare your time frame to theirs.

Instead of hoping for your desires, hope on God’s promises.

Because here’s another powerful reminder.
And this one might be a harder pill to swallow.
Also, as I’m sharing this, remember that I am NOT God and I honestly have no idea what He has planned for you.

But marriage might not be in your plans.
I know. It sounds scary.

But I wholeheartedly believe that God is a GOOD father.

And He’s not just going to plant a deep desire in our hearts and not give it to us.
If that statement terrified you, I’m going to think that marriage is PROBABLY (but I’m not guaranteeing anything) in your future.

But you never know.
The more you surrender yourself to God and allow Him to work THROUGH you, He might give you a greater, more amazing mission than marriage.
And you’re going to love the idea of THAT much more than the idea of marriage.

What I’m saying is, during the month where love is commercialized, don’t let what you SEE stir discomfort, unhappiness, and discontent in your heart and fill your head with temporary, shallow hopes.

Keep your eyes on God and keep your hope in HIS perfect, long-term plan.

In that sense, when you realize that His way is greater and that what He’s about to give you is going to be greater than what you could have ever asked for, whether it’s marriage or something else, it makes it easier to be happy for your friends and to feel happy for yourself rather than feeling lonely.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

You got this. Dwell in His peace because His promises are always kept.


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