Sorry I went missing again.
Life is HECTIC.
Literally the definition of life for me right now.
I’m working three jobs, doing the single mom thing, and just trying to balance everything else in life.
But I’m here. And I may or may not dial it back a bit and write one post a week.
Anywho, let’s pick up where we left off.
Another lie I often hear is that our standards are too high.
Listen, your standards are your own and you have every right to stick by them.
Maybe you don’t like people with tattoos.
Maybe you don’t like short people.
Maybe you don’t like people with crooked teeth.
I REALLY don’t know.
But your standards are your own and you deserve to be happy.
And if you feel that as time goes by, you don’t stand by your standards anymore and you tweak a few things here and there, THAT’S OKAY TOO!
I get a lot of flack for things that matter to me.
I don’t want to date someone who doesn’t love Jesus. I can be friends with them..but we would’t be dating compatible.
I don’t want to date someone who isn’t ambitious, isn’t open to trying new things, stays inside all the time, or doesn’t care about taking care of himself.
Why? Because I want someone to love Jesus with. I want someone with similar interests. I want someone to experience new things with. I want someone to be healthy with.
I want someone to grow and push myself with.
I’ve already been with the opposite or a greyish area and I’ve learned that those are all things that are important to me.
You can’t tell someone or shouldn’t be told by someone else that your standards are too high or too unreasonable.
I dated a guy recently and I shared some of the attributes I looked for in a guy with him (he asked for them).
He told me that I have many expectations that I look for in a partner.
My response? I hold myself to the same standard/expectations.
He joked and said, “Well, guy sounds like Clark Kent.”
I replied with, “Well then, call me Clark Kent.”
Listen, I’m not perfect but I do my best and strive to be what I look for in my partner.
It wouldn’t be right to ask of so many qualities if I’m not bringing the same to the table.
So if little imperfect me is trying, I guarantee there’s a guy out there that has and looks for the same things as me.
And I’ve come SO close to finding them..but they’d have major red flags (in terms of MY standards).
So, no, until YOU decide that your standards need adjusting because of growth or experience, your standards are NOT too high.
You set them there for a reason.
Follow through with it and don’t compromise a “heck yes” item on your list for just a “maybe” guy.