When I left my ex, I did not have the time to say, "I can't." I had to just DO. I didn't care what it was. I just knew that if I didn't do SOMETHING, it would be game over for me and my kids. We'd be homeless. We'd have nothing to eat. It would … Continue reading Change Your Focus
Let's be real. Single momming is exhausting. Having a partner and then suddenly doing it on your own is scary. There are some really hard falls that are hard to get back up from. Failure takes a whole new meaning. Failure means homelessness. Failure means not having food to eat. And I'll be honest when … Continue reading So?
A trend that I see often when I connect with other women is that their past is given WAY too much power. The funny (but it's not funny) thing is, the first significant event that they share with me is more recent. And when I help them realize that THAT point in time still isn't … Continue reading Don’t Give Your Past So Much Power
I've been hearing a lot about people wanting "ride or die" relationships. And honestly, I think it's one of the most dangerous #relationshipgoals to want. Here's why. 1. You start making excuses for him "He's only like this when he's drunk." "He normally doesn't act this way." "He only gets like this when (insert excuse … Continue reading You Don’t Want a Ride or Die Relationship
I hear this all the time (and I sometimes fall into this trap too). "I've been single for so long, I must not be good enough." Listen, you need to stop that kind of thinking. I'm not going to say, "You ARE good enough." What I am going to say is you are what you … Continue reading Lies You Need to Overcome Part IIII
Sorry I went missing again. Life is HECTIC. Literally the definition of life for me right now. I'm working three jobs, doing the single mom thing, and just trying to balance everything else in life. It's hard. But I'm here. And I may or may not dial it back a bit and write one post … Continue reading Lies You Need to Overcome Part III
On Monday, I made a list of fear based lies that we tend to believe that discourages us from dating or makes us want to settle for someone who isn't quite so good for us. If you want to read part one, you can do so here Part One Monday, we covered the lie that … Continue reading Lies You Need to Overcome Part II
Not only have I heard other women say these things, these are feelings that I have dealt with myself too. And you gotta realize, that's exactly how the devil works. He's cunning. He's sly. He knows how to strike the right cord to make you feel like maybe your standards are too high. Maybe you … Continue reading Lies You Need to Overcome Part I
I was talking to someone about my blog. And the person I was talking to was being encouraging because I was sharing how hard it is sometimes to write even when I'm not feeling inspired or unsure of what to write about. And as I was saying that, my heart finished the thought with the … Continue reading Live a Little Backwards
There's nothing more heartbreaking than seeing an amazing woman settle for a guy after she leaves an abusive relationship because "at least" he's a good guy. Sometimes, an at least guy isn't all that he's cracked up to be. He spends all his free time with his friends... but at least he has a job. … Continue reading Don’t Settle for the “At Leasts”
